The Decision Book Series

In The Decision Book Series, a female protagonist is confronted with ALL the potential outcomes of a single dilemma. THE DECISION: LIZZIE'S STORY & Book 2, JASMINE'S STORY are both out NOW.

#teenagers’ & #YP POVs wanted on #socialmedia & #tumblr.

Are you involved in the #softgrunge & #pale scene?

Lucy Hay, #author of The Decision series, wants to hear from YOU! 

Do you feel no one understands your emotional pain?

Do you get accused of “attention seeking” or “romanticising depression” by your parents, brothers & sisters, and/or friends at school and college?

EITHER:

1) Reblog this photoset to your own #Tumblr and answer these 3 quick questions below:

i) What draws you in to the #softgrunge & #pale community?

ii) Why do you think adults & some young people believe those involved here are “attention seeking”?

iii) If you were not able to update to your #softgrunge and/or #pale #tumblr (ie. if your parents deleted it), what would you do? 

OR

2) Contact me via email, HERE to tell me about yourself and/or your answers to my Qs above, or do the same by contacting me via Ask.Fm anonymously, HERE.

This is your chance to get your voice heard by a writer who doesn’t judge and cares what YOU think about the scene and who wants to hear what you think. You can find out more about me and my writing, plus other ways to get in touch with me HERE.

7 Teen Break Up #Hacks by @yazminjoy

Breakups suck no matter what age you are, but I’ve often wondered why people disregard teen heartbreak as mere ‘kids stuff’. If anything, it can be more traumatic than adult breakups when you first feel that gut-wrenching emotional horror fest of having your heart gouged out of your chest for the first time.

But don’t worry, while the first cut might be the deepest, bouncing back from teen heartbreak can also be a chance to re-emerge better and stronger.

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Like Lizzie and Jasmine in the Decision Book Series, we each have a choice on how we react to the situations in our lives. If you are in a ‘heartbreak situation’ here are some Breakup Hacks to get you on the right tracks:

#Hack1: Surround yourself with a posy of good friends.

The buddies that have your best interests at heart, who will listen to your weepy tales of breakup hell, and, ideally, will bring you cookies, are the sorta people you need in your life right now.

Why is this important? Because when you are hurting, you need people to give you support and remind you how awesome you are.

Remember: friends are for life, not just for breakups. They are the family you choose so DON’T take them for granted. Cherish them and remember to return the favour when they need a shoulder to cry on.

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 #Hack2: Protect your heart on social media.

There is no shame in blocking your bloke on social media if you need some space. Let’s just call it a lil’ relationship detox, shall we? Why is this important? Because virtual activity does not reflect reality. 

By giving yourself space you are allowing yourself the opportunity to step back and gain some perspective.

DO NOT use social media as a weapon to humiliate, retaliate and ridicule your ex, even if he hurt you. Why? Because it will make YOU look bad in the long term and damage YOUR credibility, not the other way round.

#Hack3: Let your emotion out.

Write it out, talk it out, cry it out, or hell, why not sing it out!?

It’s much better to let your emotion out than carry it around with you as extra baggage. This is actually more damaging in the long run. So go through your situation, suss out what happened and give yourself time to process your breakup… image

#Hack4: Don’t take it out on the next.

If you have had a bad relationship experience it’s important to remember that not everyone is going to hurt you. Some people will, but not everybody. Such is life!

If your ex has treated you badly, made you feel insecure about yourself or left you doubting whether you can trust anyone again, you need to know this does not represent a healthy relationship.

As mother Teresa once said:

‘Some people come in our life as blessings. Some come in your life as lessons.’

When it comes to breakups, it’s important to recognize who is a lesson and who is a blessing.

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#Hack5: Keep busy.

Trust me on this, fill up that diary girl!

Exercising and being active after a breakup is pivotal to breakup recovery. Being active will not only make you feel good about yourself but will also aid the release of feel good hormones in the brain and help alleviate stress. Win!

#Hack6: Know you are NOT alone.

We’ve all been there (or will go there). Heartbreak is a part of life but it is important we deal with it.

Talk to someone who has been though a breakup already and you will find that while every relationship is unique, you are not alone in your situation.

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#Hack7: Finally, the MOST IMPORTANT HACK OF ALL: Understand there is no rush to find love.

When you first go through a horrendous breakup you might fool yourself into thinking that love will never happen again. EVER!

Reality check: Chill out Miss Hasty, why the rush!?

A relationship does not define you. A relationship does not make you popular, nor does it make you desirable and attractive. You are defined by your own actions and attitude. Popularity, desirability and attractiveness are all down to you!

When it comes to relationships - you attract what you are. So use these golden years to work on yourself, have fun and pursue your dreams. When you are maximizing your life you attract like-minded people.

If you find a partner you can grow with, by all means go for it. But if you don’t find Mr. Right at this point in your life, don’t sweat. Do your own thing. It’s much better to glow solo than walk in the shadow of a relationship that holds you back!

Written by Yazmin Joy Vigus Tweet! @yazminjoy or check out her blog at www.aliljoy.com - don’t get down, join Yazmin for a lil’ joy! 

morb1d:

alexandraelle:

sunflower-mama:

lesmemoirs:

blametherapistneverthevictim:

 

i’ve found my favourite 

WELL SHIT

welp!

i kinda fear prison more tho tbh

morb1d:

alexandraelle:

sunflower-mama:

lesmemoirs:

blametherapistneverthevictim:

 

i’ve found my favourite 

WELL SHIT

welp!

i kinda fear prison more tho tbh

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Cyberbullies Are Just Cowards

Article by amandamjb. Follow Amanda on Twitter HERE. 

If you were bullied at school, did your parents ever tell you the one about ‘sticks and stones’? Mine did. Now bullying has been upgraded. It’s gone online instead, as Olivia finds in THE DECISION: JASMINE’S STORY when she is badly bullied and slutshamed via social media. 

What is cyber bullying? According to Childline, it’s “when a person or a group of people uses the internet, email, online games or any other kind of digital technology to threaten, tease, upset or humiliate someone else”. In other words, to upset or hurt someone by using the internet.

Cyber bullying might sound like a made-up name but for victims it’s very real. The bullies attack their victims through their keyboards, typing abuse and hiding behind a screensaver. A cyber bully doesn’t even have to know their victim but can pick on a complete stranger if they want to. Bullying is hard enough to deal with, but it can be worse when you don’t even know who’s calling you names or saying nasty things.

Chatrooms and websites may make it easier to take to your friends but they are also used by bullies to hurt people. Sites like ask.fm have been criticised for not doing enough to stop online bullying. One victim was 14 year old Hannah Smith, who experienced nameless comments and messages that caused her to sadly take her own life to escape. 19 year old Caitlin Alker was another victim who received over 300 comments and messages suggesting that she was not a good mum and someone who behaved badly.

I remember being told that name-calling and other verbal bullying isn’t as bad as being physically bullied. It’s like because it’s not physical, it’s not so bad. Trust me, that’s not true. It hurts just as much.

Bullying is wrong, no matter how it’s done. It’s not ok to call someone names, or to hurt them in any way. Doing it and hiding behind a keyboard is just being a coward as well.

Don’t suffer in silence like Olivia does in JASMINE’S STORY - get help! 

Sources:

www.bbc.co.uk

www.childline.org.uk

#teenpreg #memoir Review: THE GIRL WHO COULDN’T SAY NO by @tracyengelb

Today’s featured book on The Decision Tumblr is (fittingly) a memoir on teen pregnancy, THE GIRL WHO COULDN’T SAY NO by @tracyengelb.  

A memoir of her own life, the South African Tracy finds herself pregnant at just 14. This event has shaped Tracy’s entire life - but not in the way you might assume! This is not a book about how terrible teenage pregnancy is, or how we must prevent it because it brings society down. Instead, Tracy is unfailingly honest about her experiences, so the book challenges how we see this phenonemenon and what we can do to support young Moms who choose to continue their pregnancies. Tracy now runs Young Mom Support in South Africa, FYI - check out their fantastic and empowering website, HERE

As the author of THE DECISION: LIZZIE’S STORY, a fictional tale based loosely on my own experience of teen pregnancy, I feel THE GIRL WHO COULDN’T SAY NO "challenges unfair stereotypes & assumptions". Read my whole review by clicking Tracey’s banner below! 

Buy THE DECISION: LIZZIE’S STORY, a fictional tale on teen pregnancy and Book 1 in The Decision series by clicking the pic below. 

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AUTHORS: Want your book reviewed on Amazon and featured on The Decision Tumblr, as part of the Bang2write social network which has a highly engaged following of 20K+ people? There is NO FEE, but please refer to my submissions guidelines:

1. I am ONLY looking for Kindle titles atm, though this may change.

2. I am principally interested in NA and YA with female protagonists only, though NO vampires or werewolves, science fiction or erotica, please.

3. I am also interested in memoir and non fiction, especially about filmmaking, screenwriting, or creative writing in general.

4. FYI, there will likely be a minimum of 6-8 weeks review time. I am a script reader by day, so reading at night as well can be a Busman’s holiday for me sometimes! Please bear with me. If I promise to read your book I will, but there are times of year I am ESPECIALLY busy. I will let you know ETA of your review. 

5. Please DO NOT send your book in the first instance - any books sent via email, or emails that do not adhere to the guidelines listed below will be deleted unread. 

6. Please send the following via my website’s email contact form ONLY:

i) Your name / Title of your book, plus word count

ii) A short pitch of your book - 1-2 sentences maximum. 

iii) A little about yourself - who you are, why you write, what you’ve written before, what you’re writing next, your inspirations, etc all welcome. 50 words maximum please! 

Here’s my website’s email contact form again

NOTHING ELSE PLEASE and definitely no attachments! You should get an autoreply and I will get back to you ASAP. Please email again if you have not heard from me within 5 working days. DO NOT follow up on social media. Many thanks! 

Feel free to share this post with your author friends. Thanks and looking forward to reading your work!

#YA #YALit Review: WHERE BLUEBIRDS FLY by @wendystorer

Today’s featured book on The Decision is WHERE BLUEBIRDS FLY, #YALit about the emotional and behavioural difficulties young teens face when they’ve experienced trauma. 

Author Wendy Storer offers accomplished prose in this novel that paints a vivid, 3D picture of its protagonist, Ruby and her journey of enlightenment. I particularly enjoyed the dialogue between Ruby and the story’s antagonist, Pearl.  Storer could have easily slipped into the trap of sentimentality, but doesn’t.  I reviewed WHERE BLUEBIRDS FLY as “charming & refreshing, the story is not all black & white”; to read my whole review and/or buy the book, click the cover pic below.  

Readers who enjoy the above may also be interested in my novel, THE DECISION: JASMINE’S STORY, a tale of betrayal and best friends. Buy the book by clicking on the link or the cover pic below. Enjoy! 

AUTHORS: Want your book reviewed on Amazon and featured on The Decision Tumblr, as part of the Bang2write social network which has a highly engaged following of 20K+ people? There is NO FEE, but please refer to my submissions guidelines:

1. I am ONLY looking for Kindle titles atm, though this may change.

2. I am principally interested in NA and YA with female protagonists only, though NO vampires or werewolves, science fiction or erotica, please.

3. I am also interested in memoir and non fiction, especially about filmmaking, screenwriting, or creative writing in general.

4. FYI, there will likely be a minimum of 6-8 weeks review time. I am a script reader by day, so reading at night as well can be a Busman’s holiday for me sometimes! Please bear with me. If I promise to read your book I will, but there are times of year I am ESPECIALLY busy. I will let you know ETA of your review. 

5. Please DO NOT send your book in the first instance - any books sent via email, or emails that do not adhere to the guidelines listed below will be deleted unread. 

6. Please send the following via my website’s email contact form ONLY:

i) Your name / Title of your book, plus word count

ii) A short pitch of your book - 1-2 sentences maximum. 

iii) A little about yourself - who you are, why you write, what you’ve written before, what you’re writing next, your inspirations, etc all welcome. 50 words maximum please! 

Here’s my website’s email contact form again

NOTHING ELSE PLEASE and definitely no attachments! You should get an autoreply and I will get back to you ASAP. Please email again if you have not heard from me within 5 working days. DO NOT follow up on social media. Many thanks! 

Feel free to share this post with your author friends. Thanks and looking forward to reading your work!